I didn’t always like my own company growing up. I found myself rather boring to be honest and yet, the more I hated being alone, the lonelier I was. I wasn’t a friendly child. I kept to myself and my books, did my work, went home, went back to school; it was an endlessly mundane cycle. My mother was overprotective so though I had school and church “friends”, I didn’t get the playdates and fun time that is so crucial to form lasting relationships.
Then I got older, and the older I got, the more friends I made, the more I realized how much I preferred being alone! LOL.
I’d like to think that there’s a difference between being alone and being lonely.
Growing up, I was lonely but never quite alone.
Now? I’ve come to be alone but never lonely. I have my good friends that I love to be with but most times you’ll find me in my room. It didn’t occur to me that others found it difficult to be left to themselves until someone close to me confessed to it. So I figured why not tell you what worked for me 🙂
How to Be Alone:
- Say No: When your friends ask you to go somewhere that you’re not totally sold on, the word “no” comes in pretty handy. You can totally say no and have a nice night in doing whatever you do that makes you happy.
- Date Yourself: Feeling the Singles Blues? Try not to let that feeling push you into a situation you know you have no business being in. You don’t ACTUALLY need him/her to take you to dinner. Take yourself. Take care of yourself.
- Meditate: I’m at a point in my life where meditation has become a necessity. Sometimes being left to my own thoughts is downright anxiety inducing. I can’t get a good night’s rest with my mind going a mile a minute. Meditation has honestly helped me quiet those pesky thoughts about what needs to be done, who needs to be spoken to, and what not.
Remember, it’s okay to be alone sometimes. No one is gonna understand you like you do. Spend some time with yourself, get to know yourself, love yourself. You totally deserve it.