Don’t Fall In Love With Potential¬†

I’m a Twitter-holic so obviously I’m probably on Twitter if I’m not asleep. The other day, one of the people I follow said something that stuck out to me. “Don’t fall in love with potential.” 


That one statement resonated in me in a way that was quite frankly, uncomfortable.

I realize I have a habit of not falling for the guy, but what I believe the guy can be.

Maybe as a woman,  I tend to want to fix things and as a result, I find myself attracted to men who are broken and looking for direction. Because of this attraction, more times than not, I’m left broken as well.

It’s like picking up a broken vase and cutting yourself on the pieces. It hurts like hell.

Some things aren’t yours to fix and to be frank you can’t really “fix” anyone. 

As a woman, It seems only logical to desire to be with a man; and yet, for many years of my life I found myself with boys, holding on to the idea that one day they’d grow up and live up to the potential I saw in them. It shouldn’t have come to a surprise that they didn’t.

So if this is an issue you face, stop.

You obviously know the kind of person you want to be with, pursue that kind of person. You don’t have to date someone while waiting for him/her to grow up.
 “Don’t fall in love with potential.”


Being Vegan the WRONG Way in College

So I’ve been back in school for almost two weeks now and while I thought starting off the school year in my dorm as a vegan couldn’t possibly be as hard as it sounded, I was so soooo wrong. As much research as I did, I realized I still had no idea how to really be vegan while in school. I went to Aldi’s grocery store and then Earth Fare and picked up some food feeling super confident. Got back to my room and realized I had a whole bunch of nothing. Seriously. WHAT A WASTE OF MONEY! I am a broke college student. I quite literally cannot afford to waste any money. So here are some things I learned the hard way about being vegan in a college dorm.

  1. Get yourself a fridge. Some people say you don’t really need one. I beg to differ because not having on is killing me. I would like to store my fruit and spinach and freeze my potatoes. Obviously I can’t do that so obviously I don’t buy them which OBVIOUSLY affects my diet.
  2. It’s okay if you don’t cut out every animal product cold turkey. i thought I coould because I honestly believed I had no taste for the stuff whatsoever. I WAS WRONG. Giving up meat was the easy part. Yet, realizing how much of my favorite foods had animal products was pretty depressing. I LOVE CHEESE. Like…I love it. It’s in all my favorite foods like pizza and my burgers. I also love yogurts and ice cream so saying goodbye to those when I don’t have a kitchen to cook any food is difficult to say the least.
  3. Make a list of what you’re buying before you get to the store. If you shop blindly like I did sometimes, you’ll buy a whole lot of nothing. I had popcorn, chips, salsa, and LOTS of bread, realizing I had a whole bunch of carbs and not much of anything else.
  4. Just go to the cafe man. I tried to avoid my school’s cafe because quite frankly, the food isn’t always a hit but it does have a vegan line and it also has a pretty good salad bar.
  5. Find an accountability partner. Literally all of my ¬†friends here love meat so they’re not gonna check me. I don’t know any other vegans where I am. It’s always cool to find someone you can exchange ideas and recipes with.

That’s all I got so far. If you’re vegan and have some tips for me, that’d be cool because as you can see, I. AM. STRUGGLING.

Back to School

So I’m back in school and if you’re anything like me, you have to organize your entire life before you can proceed. I like to plan. I may not always be good at keeping up with said plan, but I more so enjoy the process of it. Anyway, if you’re in school but struggling to stay organized and motivated, I have some tips that have helped me get my life together academically.

1. Plan out your week. I have a dry erase calendar where I write down all the things that I have to be done that week, whether it be assignments, projects, meetings, chores.

2. Don’t study in your room. It’s not ideal. Your room needs to be a place to sleep. I don’t care if you have a desk in your room, go somewhere else man.  Somewhere you can focus.

3. Reward yourself when you study. After every hour or so, treat yourself to 10-15 minutes of chill time. I personally can’t stare at a textbook longer than an hour without wanting to cry.

4. Apps are life. I love apps. They keep my organized. iStudiez is a great one I use so I never forget an assignment. 

5. Get an accountability partner. Set goals and find someone who you can be accountable for and can be accountable for you. It’s good to have someone to give you a nudge when you’re not feeling up to doing your work.

7. Find your studying style. Some people read and just remember, some like making flash cards, some take pages and pages of notes, some (like me)?do all three. Whatever works for you!

6. Relax. Go out. Have fun. You can’t study ALL the time. Trust me. I’ve tried it and it resulted in panic attacks and episodes of depression. Your mental health is just as if not more important as academics. If you’re killing yourself for a grade, you’re not doing it right. Study smart, not hard.

Those are my tips. Took me awhile to use them effectively to be honest but since I started to, my grades have improved and I don’t feel so overwhelmed!

Give em a try!